Then you know as well as I do, do everything you can, then take the bike to the track (road course) for a track day. Then, while you're there, have the suspension guys help you dial it in. I know a lot about suspension and the general 'right' direction, but when it comes down to it, those guys really know how to help you out.
Set it up, go out, come back in and tell then how you feel, how the bike performed, make adjustments, go back out and repeat until you are a Happy Camper.
But it does sound like you're dropping the front a lot. I had this same problem, because my front end was pushing in the corners, meaning the front would stray wide. Culprit was old, burnt fork oil. New oil, seals, and some preload in the shock, and the bike was back to being a badass again.