If you have them T'd together they will empty at the same time because the pressure will equalize. unless im just dumb and cant understand the concept
That's what you'd expect and if you were dealing with a high pressure gas and NOT A LIQUID GAS, that would be the case. However, in actual practice when dealing with a high pressure LIQUID GAS, the bigger bottle (or the bottle that can maintain its heat better), will empty before the other.
Both bottles will start to flow initially but as the bottle that is least able to maintain it's heat falls in pressure, the one that maintains its heat best will not only feed the solenoid but it will also top up the low pressure bottle.
That's why the bottles on multi-bottle systems MUST be IDENTICAL in ALL respects. Even the colour and type of coating (paint/nylon powder), affects the heat transfer rate and therefore the rate of pressure drop. For example; a bottle with a white nylon coating will lose pressure much quicker than a bottle which has a thin black coating, because nylon is an insulator and white reflects heat, whereas black absorbs heat and paint conducts heat. Likewise, a small bottle will lose pressure quicker than a big bottle, because there is less bottle mass and surface area for heat to act on and conduct through, plus you have a greater mass of liquid nitrous readily available.
BTW this is NOT a matter for debate, these are absolute FACTS that I've proven beyond a shadow of doubt and when you apply the basic laws of physics, it's OBVIOUS that what I'm describing MUST be the case.